Modeling Empathy for Kids
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the perspective of another person – it guides us to connect, give comfort, and consider the impact of our actions. Children absorb empathy by seeing how the adults around them respond to emotions, other people, and difficult moments. As a nanny, your intentional responses can help lay the foundation for the kids in your care to become empathetic humans.
"Generosity, empathy, caring, and sharing cannot be taught, they can only be modeled."
Modeling empathy can help instill empathy and shape their responses to the emotions of others (as well as their own). Try using one of these statements next time you’re supporting a child through an emotional experience.
Empathetic Statements to Use with Kids
- “I can see you’re upset. Can I sit with you?”
- “I’m sorry that happened.”
- “You have a right to feel that way.”
- “I know how much that can hurt. Are you okay?”
- “I understand why you’re upset.”
- “I would feel the same way.”
- “I’m here for you.”
To raise empathetic kids, we have to show them that it’s important to recognize and respect how others feel. That starts with empathizing with their experiences. Nannies have the opportunity to shape valuable lifelong skills, just by being intentional with daily words and actions. By consistently modeling empathy, you’re not only helping the kids in your care feel seen and supported– you’re also teaching them how to respond to the world around them.